Building Resilience

Everyone can suffer life’s daily grind. Challenges faced at work and at home can lead to feelings of stress, tension and anxiety. While we may not be able to choose what happens to us, we can with practice, build resilience by choosing our behaviours and attitudes and the way we react and adapt to stressors in our lives.

Some people seem to be more resilient than others naturally. Although we may be born with or acquire resilience naturally in our lives, we can also learn and practice behaviours to improve our resilience.

Here are my top 10 techniques to focus on, in order to develop your own resilience:

1. Inevitability

We cannot change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but we can change how we interpret and respond to these events. Seeing these stressful events as a part of life helps us avoid the “why me” syndrome which can lead to chronic stress.

2. Foster close Relationships

Maintain strong personal relationships with family members and friends. Caring creates resilience.

3. Have Goals in life

Having a purpose or focus can help us become more resilient. We should all develop and update our life long goals.

4. Be optimistic

Maintaining an optimistic outlook is an important part of resilience. See a brighter future and direct focus in that direction.

5. Look at the big picture

Look beyond the present to how future circumstances may be better. Avoid blowing the event out of proportion.

6. Improve your problem solving skills

Problems rarely solve themselves. Practice and improve your problem solving skills.

7. Be confident

If we are confident we can adapt to and solve stressors in our life and we will learn to fear them less.

8. Nurture your mind, body and spirit

By looking after ourselves, both in mind, body and spirit, we can improve our immune system, produce feel good hormones and be better able to rebound from stressors.

9. Embrace change

If we can be flexible and adapt, change can lead to new opportunities.

10. Become more proactive

Don’t wait for issues to disappear on their own. Use your new found positive outlook and problem solving skills to get on the front foot and tackle issues head on.

Ian Fraser expands on his top 10 techniques in the 1.5 hour keynote session as well as the one day Manage Stress and Resilience Training Course.